KEY POINTS
- A dating expert advised Tom Brady and Gisele Bundchen to communicate, or their marriage would be doomed
- Jo Hemmings said the only way for the celebrity couple to work things out is to talk about their feelings openly
- Hemmings suggested Brady may have only found fulfillment in his career and not in his family life with Bundchen
Gisele Bundchen may have felt unloved amid her and Tom Brady’s alleged marital crisis, according to a relationship expert.
Jo Hemmings, a Behavioral Psychologist and registered member of the British Psychological Society, who was voted Dating Expert of the Year in 2014 and 2016, weighed in on Bundchen and Brady’s relationship. The celebrity couple’s marriage has been rumored to be on the rocks in the past months, and they have been living separately and spotted without their wedding bands while out in public.
“Inconsistency can also be confusing and unsettling in a relationship, and it may be that Tom is unsure of how he feels and what he does want from life, which will make Gisele feel neglected and unloved,” Hemmings told The Sun.
She also warned the couple that they could be “doomed” if they didn’t address the issue. She encouraged them to communicate.
“The only way around this is proper communication, where feelings can be talked about openly and candidly,” she explained. If one or both partners have spent much of their adult lives putting their careers first, it can come as a bit of a wake-up call when they find that they need, or even want, to find the time to include family life in that embedded pattern.”
Hemmings added that Brady, just like many, may have found his work more rewarding than his personal life. The NFL player announced in February that he would be retiring after playing football for over two decades. However, six weeks later, he decided to continue his career.
An unnamed source previously told Page Six they had an “epic fight” after he decided to unretire. Hemmings said that the seven-time Super Bowl champion may be insecure and only find fulfillment in his work.
“They may also be insecure, concerned that without the validation and fulfillment of work, they lose their sense of purpose or fear others may take the roles that they feel were intended for themselves,” she suggested.
“But the majority of us – research would suggest almost 70% – are ‘integrators’ and these types struggle to find the right work/life balance, feeling that they are not giving either of them sufficient time.”
International Business Times could not verify Hemmings’ claims.
Bundchen and Brady have both hired divorce lawyers. An insider told People that the supermodel “is done” trying to make her marriage with Brady work.
The Brazilian supermodel seemed to have hinted about this in her interview with Elle magazine for its October issue. Bundchen, who halted her career for their family, said, “I’ve done my part, which is [to] be there for [Tom].”
“I have a huge list of things that I have to do, that I want to do. At 42, I feel more connected with my purpose,” she added.